Los Angeles County Office of Education

02/26/2020 | News release | Distributed by Public on 02/26/2020 18:21

Establishing happy and healthy relationships

By: EASE Staff

Humans have an innate desire to connect, build relationships, and be close to other people. As we form these relationships, it's crucial to understand each other's needs and expectations as it's fundamental to healthy relationships. Relationships can be defined in different ways (e.g., romantic, work, familial, friendships) but in order for relationships to be healthy, they should embody open, honest and safe communication.

COMMUNICATION

One of the most important ingredients for a healthy relationship is open and honest communication. It's not possible for someone to read your mind, so don't try to read theirs. Instead ask honest questions and provide honest answers. Create an environment where you feel safe and comfortable in expressing your thoughts and feelings.

  • Speak up. If something is bothering you, it is best to talk about it instead of holding it in.
  • Respect each other. Demonstrate to your significant other that you are keeping their thoughts and feelings in mind. Maintain mutual respect as it is an essential component of healthy relationships.
  • Compromise. If you've come to a disagreement find a way to compromise. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way.
  • Be supportive. Offer reassurance and encouragement to each other. If you need support, communicate that! Healthy relationships are about lifting each other up and not putting each other down.
  • Respect privacy. Healthy relationships require space. You don't have to share everything or be together all the time. Have healthy boundaries and give each other space.

BOUNDARIES

Boundaries are essential to any relationship. By setting boundaries, you can have a deeper understanding about your relationships and a stronger sense of self. They allow us to separate who we are, and what we think and feel, from the thoughts and feelings of others. Signs of healthy boundaries include:

  • Taking care of yourself without feeling guilty
  • Not feeling responsible for someone else's happiness
  • Asking for what you want or need
  • Feeling safe to express difficult emotions or disagree
  • Taking responsibility for your own happiness
  • Knowing who you are, what you believe, what you like

BOOST YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Celebrate love this month within all your relationships. Your relationships can always use a boost. Engage in healthy behaviors that are fun and enjoyable. Reflect on great times in your relationships (e.g., parents, siblings, friends, family members, children). Go out and enjoy quality time with those you love and care about most. Connect with others and connect with yourself!

  • Use 'please' and 'thank you' to show appreciation for the little things. Remind your loved ones that you value them.
  • Emphasize positive traits about one another and improvements that can be made.
  • Model unconditional love and positive regard for those around you.

EASE has counselors if you want to talk: (800) 882-1341

NOTE: The EASE office has relocated to the Education Center East (ECE) building. The new office address is: 9525 Imperial Highway, Suite 800, Downey CA.